The Great Cheating Debate plus Shameless Plug

Back when I posted about that crazy cheating-investigation book on Monday, March 7, an astute reader posted a comment posing the question: What exactly defines cheating?

I don’t think there’s any straight answer to that question, though I did speak to Dr. Sue Johnson of Ottawa University about infidelity for a story I’ve written for the Spring 2005 issue of 2 Magazine, and we touched on that issue exactly. You’ll have to pick up a copy when it hits the stands to read the story (*shameless grin*), but I’ll give you a quick little test to do if you’re not sure if you’re crossing into cheating territory:

Whatever it may be — flirting heavily with a co-worker, paying to watch porn online, calling a chat line — if your partner were to find out, would they be incredibly upset? ‘Cause when it comes to the grey areas, defining what’s okay and what’s not often lies with how your behaviour would affect your partner.

Give me your feedback: do you agree with me? How would you define cheating? Leave a comment or email me (subject heading: Cheating Debate) at haileydai@hotmail.com and let the debate begin! Anonymity guaranteed, if desired.